Alright, let’s just cut to the chase—you’ve got a stack of RSVP cards, a closet overflowing with half-finished craft projects, and at least three relatives texting to ask about hotel info. Wedding week is exciting and sweet, but it can also feel a bit like you’re herding cats while juggling flaming rings. It’s normal to feel a little (or a lot) frazzled. But trust me, you can sneak in some genuine relaxation before your big day. Here’s what has worked for me, my friends, and even my cousin who swore she’d never chill out again after that last centerpiece disaster.

Create a No-Stress Zone (And Actually Use It)

If you only do one thing, create a spot—maybe your favorite chair, your porch swing, or the tub (bathtub stoppers in place, of course)—that is for relaxation only. No guest lists, no calls, just you, a good book, or maybe your favorite lo-fi playlist. Make it a habit, even if you can only spare 10 minutes a night. A friend of mine literally taped a “No Wedding Drama” sign on her bedroom door the week before she tied the knot. It worked wonders.

A bubble bath is a classic for a reason. Seriously, there’s magic in warm water, soft lighting, and a door that actually shuts. Even if you don’t own fancy bath stuff, grab some Epsom salts or just let your mind wander. I’m convinced there isn’t a single worry that can’t be softened by a solid soak.

Don’t Skip Meals (No, Coffee Doesn’t Count as Breakfast)

This one’s sneaky. A lot of people get so wrapped up in appointments and last-minute errands that they forget to eat real meals. Your body’s juggling a ton, and skipping meals only turns you into someone who’s hungry, tired, and more prone to meltdown over the wrong flowers. Keep some easy snacks around—nuts, granola bars, or cut-up fruit. Even a peanut butter sandwich can save the day when you feel yourself spiraling.

Delegate, Delegate, Delegate—Then Let Go

If you’re a little Type A, it’s easy to fall into the “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done right” trap. But here’s the thing: people want to help! Let your sister handle the musicians, or your best friend manage RSVPs. If a detail goes sideways, just laugh it off—these are the stories you’ll remember anyway.

And please, don’t hesitate to go off-script. If you want to spend the afternoon watching comfort movies instead of figuring out table settings, go for it. That’s real self-care.

Move Your Body, Even a Little

You don’t have to run a marathon. A gentle walk, a few stretches in your living room, or a spontaneous living room dance party can clear your head like nothing else. When my nerves started buzzing, I’d head outside and make a loop around the block, wedding playlist in my ears.

Breathe and Celebrate the Small Stuff

Find little things to look forward to each day—the first sip of coffee, a text from an old friend, the way your shoes feel after you finally kick them off. Take a second to breathe it all in.

Just Remember: You’ve Got This

You’re stepping into a big, joyful moment, and it’s totally normal to feel a bit jittery. So fill that tub, jam in those bathtub stoppers, and soak up every moment, even the pre-wedding butterflies. This is your week—enjoy it!